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Even if we’ve never acknowledged it, the reason words are so powerful is because they reveal what’s in our hearts…The worst part of regretting your words is knowing where your heart was at when you misspoke –– or knowing where someone else’s heart was at when they said what they did to you. Our words alter reality for people, and every time we open our mouths we have an opportunity to bring to life hope or hurt for someone else. In our new series, Sticks X Stones, let’s talk about the most powerful tool we all possess: our words.

Talk About It!

1. Words are creative

Proverbs 12:18, 15:1
Leader Notes

  • What is your favorite place in the world? If I asked you to show me what that place looked like, how would you do it? Would you use your words, right it down, draw a picture, or act it out? When God speaks, he makes things out of nothing! Our words aren’t creative in the same way. We can’t create stuff from nothing. But our words are powerful. We can bless people and lift them up, or we can tear people down with unkind words.
  • Have you ever made a mess with your words? Our words can make good or bad things bloom. They have power. The Bible is full of stories about people who made good and beautiful things by speaking life and people who made a mess by their unkind words. Can you think of any of those stories?
  • Have you ever used your words to make something beautiful? If we let him, God can even speak through us! That’s called a “spiritual gift.” When we give our words back to him, he can use us to say what he wants to say to the world.

2. Words are a window to your heart

Matthew 12:33-37
Leader Notes

  • What’s your favorite kind of food? We all love flavorful food, but good food all starts with good, healthy dirt, as any farmer will tell you. Also, food that doesn’t taste good and isn’t as good for us comes from unhealthy dirt. In the same way, our words don’t just happen. They grow, and we’ve got to make sure that what they’re growing out of is healthy.
  • Where do our words come from? Why do we say the things we say? Jesus said, “From the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” (Luke 6:45). That means that our words come directly from our hearts. It shows who we really are and what we’re really thinking. If our heart is unhealthy, then the words that grow out of it won’t bring people life. If we take good care of our hearts, then the words that grow will be healthy and bring life to people!
  • How healthy is your heart today? How can we take good care of our hearts? One of the best ways we can take care of our hearts is by reading our Bibles, talking to God, and worshiping him. The more time we spend with him, the healthier he can make our hearts, and the better our words will be!

3. Words must be guarded

Proverbs 13:3
Leader Notes

What does it mean to be honest with someone? While it’s important to be honest, a wise person doesn’t say everything. Being honest doesn’t mean telling everybody exactly what we think. It means that we know how to admit when we make a mistake. We can be honest when we don’t have everything figured out.

Have you ever said something that you wanted to take back? We need to guard our words because they’re creative, and once they’re out there, we can’t pull them back. We need to be careful not to just spill our thoughts and emotions all over the place. Instead, we need to think before we speak. That’s called self-control.

4. Words should bless

Proverbs 16:24; Ephesians 4:29
Leader Notes

  • What kind of words bring you life and make you feel good? Doesn’t it feel good when someone says those kinds of words to you? Those are the kinds of words that we want to speak over others. We want to be the kind of people that bring life and remind others of how much God loves them.
  • Who can you bless this week with those kinds of words? Think of three people you are going to talk to this week. What life-giving words can you speak to them? Wait for just the right moment, and ask God to help you speak life to the people you love.

Optional Follow-up Questions:

  • What makes you say that?
  • What makes you say that?
  • How does that make you feel?
  • How would you explain this to someone who doesn’t know Jesus?
  • Why do you think God did it that way?
  • Why should we do the things that God tells us?